You beat your self up, finish the day with regrets (once more), surprise why you’ll be able to’t do higher or get again on monitor together with your targets, be as motivated as this particular person or that one, and so on…
That bit ^ is from a weblog put up I shared 4 years in the past. It crossed my display screen once more in the present day, and it was EXACTLY what I wanted to listen to! You’ll discover it at: Ever Really feel Discouraged or Overwhelmed? Me Too… – when you may use a severe pep speak too. 😉
Discouraged, Struggling, Overwhelmed, Pissed off?
In case you’re going by means of a tough patch, or simply not the place you wish to be in your life or together with your targets, that’s okay – and also you’re not alone. 💕 xo ~
Dangle in there. Higher issues are coming. I’m proof of that. I’m comfortable now. 🫶 I’m not “nicely” however I’m approach higher, and I really feel hopeful and inspired and grateful recently. 🙌
Not too way back I felt the precise reverse and was in a really darkish place. Remember, at all times: “This Too Shall Go” ~ and experience it out, with as a lot grace and gratitude as you’ll be able to muster.
Issues generally get approach worse earlier than they get higher. Life is simply RUDE like that generally. It’s not simply you – I promise. 😉
Final week I shared one thing on Fb, on my private profile, about how I cope with robust occasions, or actually anytime I want a mindset adjustment, and I needed to share that with you too – so I pasted it beneath. Take pleasure in! 💖
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Observe: these are fairly uncooked ideas, unedited
I wakened feeling anxious, overwhelmed and pissed off. 😒‼️🫣🥹 I needed to have some REAL TALK aka “reality time” in my journal about that, as a result of I’ve had an AMAZING week! I’m doing GREAT. 💁♀️
I don’t screw round in my journal. I dig IN and straighten myself out – and I do that just about each day.
I can not say sufficient concerning the energy of journaling. ✍️ In case you go away all that stuff in your head, you’ll be caught responding to it emotionally. You’ll really feel anxious, you’ll procrastinate, you’ll really feel overwhelmed, you’ll get pissed off and distracted 🤦♀️ – all reactions to ideas & emotions that aren’t essentially true. Or aren’t as massive as they FEEL in your head. Or have fairly easy options…
Your emotions will CONSUME you and permit unfavorable ideas to direct your actions (or lack of motion). You possibly can’t run your life on emotions. Nicely – you’ll be able to, however then it’ll suck. 👎 As a result of emotions are fickle, and feelings are only a approach for the mind to rationalize towards what you already know in your intestine. <– (reality)
One thing actually cool occurs if you write it down, if you put that STORM in your head on paper or on the display screen in entrance of you. 🪄✨ You reply to it LOGICALLY as an alternative of emotionally.
It’s a easy mind trick, that shifts your perspective (and the way in which you react to it). 🎯
My recommendation: simply do an unsightly mind dump. Don’t edit your self. 🤬 Let all of your ideas movement, even when they make no sense, even when you KNOW they’re incorrect, even when you’ve mentioned all of it earlier than 👀 🙋♀️ even when it’s not one thing you’ll be able to resolve or repair otherwise you don’t see ANY level in it.
If it’s in your thoughts, or at the back of your thoughts, it’s affecting you. 😕 Get it OUT OF YOUR HEAD and out in entrance of you the place you’ll be able to see it for what it truly is – and truly deal with it. 🤔
Me, in my head: “I’m so behind. All the things is piling up on me. That is all too overwhelming. I’m simply getting additional away from my purpose. I can’t do that. blah blah blah (bitch moan whine).” 😫😭
Response: shut down, curl up and watch netflix, go get a snack, get on my laptop computer and stare at a clean display screen, ugh, grr, watch extra netflix whereas feeling harassed and anxious and discouraged. As a result of that makes loads of sense. 💁♀️
Me, in my journal: “What?! You might be rocking at life! And in your situation even! You’re nonetheless getting A LOT achieved. You probably did xyz this week and abc too, and also you additionally did the pqrs too – these had been excessive priorities you knocked out this week, vital stuff. Strategy to go!”
.o0 “Yeah, you’re proper – every thing is ok, I’M superb, simply preserve doing the issues, you’re doing nice!” … “What are you going to dig into subsequent – what makes probably the most sense proper now?”
Typically I discover myself in an actual screwup or a tougher spot with one thing like grief or loss or panic or main life BS or no matter. To which I reply, “Okay, now what?” – after which take a deep breath, and reply that query just like the logical and good particular person I’m. As an alternative of completely freaking out, just like the emotional wreck I additionally am (or may be – if I go away it in my head).
Meltdowns aren’t fairly 😉 … or productive. However have you ever a giant one when you should, FEEL the sentiments. I’m not saying they’re pointless. You’re feeling unhappy or harm or overwhelmed or scared or pissed off or discouraged or no matter for a motive. So FEEL it if you want to, however then ask your self: WHY? – like, what’s the trigger, the basis of that emotion, and what are you able to DO about it?
In case you’re searching for an ideal purpose planner / journal, these are two of my favorites:
I’m rambling. I had an superior journal session this morning. 🙂 I’m superior. I’m wonderful. I’m doing good things. I get up daily and SPEND IT with intention. ✅ I’m doing all the suitable issues. I’m transferring in the suitable route. All the things is ok – it’s GREAT even.
After I did my “ugly mind dump” this morning I began feeling tremendous impressed, and created a very good Precedence Process Checklist to work on this weekend. As a result of you’ve got two decisions ✌️ you’ll be able to really feel dangerous / unhappy about what you’re NOT doing or didn’t get achieved, or you will get off your a$$ and go get it achieved. 💥
* To not say that I’m arduous on myself. I’m not “nicely” so there’s loads of self care and charm and relaxation happening n stuff. That’s excessive precedence for me too: to unplug, go sit within the sunshine, nap, take pleasure in a great meal and a film, have an ideal chat with a buddy, and so on. 💝
It’s all about steadiness, and in the end: the way you FEEL (vs the way you WANT to really feel).
I analyzed my resistance this morning – my negativity, my nervousness, all of it. It made sense, it wasn’t completely incorrect, however it wasn’t precisely TRUTH both. If you’re anxious you catastrophosize every thing. You get sucked into that black gap ⚫️ and may’t even see the truth.
So… journal it out, and have a REAL have a look at it, then create an motion plan.
What now? What subsequent?
What can I do TODAY that may take advantage of distinction, or level me in the suitable route?
Work out the place you wish to go from right here, and get began – even when it’s one single child step. 👣 Simply do it! That motion provides you with a way of aid, and a way of accomplishment, and a way of HOPE.
I discover self-talk in my head is usually unfavorable. Getting that out offers me room to get actual and get again to specializing in what’s vital – which is what’s in entrance of me (in the present day, now). I closed in the present day’s journal entry with this:
“That is all nice, and I really feel upbeat and impressed now. 🙂 But in addition: you’ve been doing nice all alongside. You’ve managed to maintain issues going, preserve your self recovering, you’ve stayed in a constructive and productive mindset. It may have been WAY worse, however you probably did nice!! ❤️ ”
Reality 💯
That was loads, so when you learn this far – I hope you bought one thing out of it, a take-away you’ll be able to USE. xo
Spend Your Day With Intention
I like to begin every day asking: What can I do in the present day, or how can I spend at the present time, in a approach that may make me go to sleep comfortable or content material tonight? ✅️💚 🤔
That at all times will get me began in the suitable route. 👌
This photograph was taken two years in the past. It was a HARD day. I felt completely hell’ish after which had a really unflattering and full meltdown.
However you’ll be able to’t see that, proper? There’s at all times SO way more behind a smile, or a lot extra happening in somebody’s thoughts than you’ll EVER know.
What’s happening in YOUR head in the present day?
* you don’t need to reply that – simply go journal it out! 😉 *cheers*
Wishing you an ideal day filled with hope and pleasure and HAPPY’NESS with the place you might be and what you’re doing and the way issues are unfolding in your life – since you’re taking very intentional actions towards the model of your self you wish to be in the present day, and wish to transfer into subsequent. ✨💖✨
Greatest,
Lynn Terry
aka @LowCarbTraveler
p.s. If I assumed any sure meals would really assist throughout arduous occasions, or make me really feel ANY higher once I’m harassed or down 🍩🍟🍪 I’d eat it. However I already know from previous expertise that it doesn’t and it received’t – it solely makes me really feel worse. Sticking to my targets, maintaining a healthy diet and exercising, at the very least offers me ONE factor I can management 🎯 – it helps me keep grounded and constructive, as an alternative of being yet another factor that’s spinning out of my management, and taking me farther away from a cheerful place. So: 🥦 💚 ✔ I simply carry on holding on, staying on monitor. It took me a LONG time to study that one… However I’m so glad I lastly received off THAT curler coaster. 😉
p.p.s. I crashed fairly arduous after I wrote that put up on Fb final week. 😵💫 I’m lastly again up & round on and off 🙌 and nonetheless have that entire listing to work by means of 😅 … ack, haha! 🤦♀️
Joyful Friday, xo
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