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Katie: Hey and welcome to the Wellness Mama podcast. I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com and I actually beloved this episode that’s all about learn how to breathe and permission to relaxation. And also you’ll discover a lot of correlations to elements of my journey that I’ve shared with some actually necessary, relevant and sensible ideas that I believe are particularly wanted for ladies and mothers.
I’m right here with Ashley Neese, who’s a famend breath work trainer and the writer of Breathe and Permission to Relaxation. She has spent over a decade working on the intersections of embodiment, transformation and renewal. And he or she’s additionally the host of The Deeper Name e-newsletter and podcast the place she shares her private reflections and restorative conversations on therapeutic and regeneration. And we get to go deep on lots of points of this dialog as we speak on this podcast. We began off speaking in a enjoyable approach about her expertise as an newbie beekeeper and the way she acquired into it. And as a beekeeper as properly, I appreciated that half, but it surely was truly an ideal springboard into our deeper dialog. as a result of being round bees, it seems, can truly assist us to downshift into parasympathetic. And that was a standard thread of this dialog the place we talked in regards to the understanding and significance of relaxation and the precise definition, which is usually confused in trendy society.
We talked about how relaxation can truly assist our capability to do onerous issues and enhance different areas of life, although it’s usually so easy it’s ignored. We talked in regards to the distinction between sleep and relaxation and the way whereas they will share some commonalities, they’re distinctly completely different as properly. We additionally talked loads about her trauma restoration and mine as properly, and the way that turned a part of her therapeutic journey. We discuss easy practices to be taught relaxation and hook up with the physique, how nature helps with this, what the stress response cycle is, and learn how to full that to have the ability to downshift right into a relaxation cycle, and methods to interrupt the stress response cycle, what a physique price range is and the way that may assist us relaxation.
We go into the somatic parts of relaxation and therapeutic and restorative time, and a lot extra. I really feel like this dialog actually ties collectively lots of issues that I’ve talked about in different podcasts, and can be a very good useful resource and power for any of you who’re doing that interior work and having hassle with that interior emotional, religious, psychological facet, and the way that’s regarding your bodily well being. So with none additional wait, let’s be a part of Ashley. Ashley, welcome. Thanks a lot for being right here.
Ashley: Thanks a lot for having me, Katie. I’m actually trying ahead to this.
Katie: I’m deeply excited for this dialog. I believe we’re going to get to the touch on some extraordinarily related elements of well being that aren’t as usually talked about, however that appear particularly related to girls and to mothers. And I’m very excited to get to dive deep with you on that. Earlier than we do although, I even have a word out of your bio that you’re additionally an newbie beekeeper. And it is a passion I’ve had since I used to be a teen. So I’d love to listen to your expertise with that and the way you bought into it. I’m all the time up for any time I get to plug individuals being beekeepers as a result of I believe that’s so useful. The extra those who maintain bees and perceive bees and even simply plant issues that may profit the bees, I’m all about that. So how did you get into it?
Ashley: I acquired into it, so we moved to the Sierra’s from after residing within the Bay Space for some time. And one of many causes we moved out to the Sierras was to be nearer to the land and to have a unique sort of tempo of life. And our first spring right here was truly on Earth Day two years in the past. We had simply completed our home and we have been simply driving to the property. And one of many gents who was engaged on our home was like, hey, there’s a swarm over there. Do you guys need this swarm? And my companion and I have been like, oh my God, there’s this swarm. That is so thrilling. We’re so into bees. We knew that we wished bees on the land, however we had no concept learn how to get began. And Josh, who’s such a candy man, was like, why don’t I’m going aid you get the swarm after which I can deliver you a hive and you will get began. And it simply occurred. They have been on the land. So he came visiting, acquired a noticed, acquired one of many branches down off the tree. We acquired the swarm right into a field and I transferred it into the hive two days later. And we’ve had bees ever since. And we simply caught one other swarm a few months in the past, only a week after Earth Day right here, too. In order that appears to be the time they have an inclination to interrupt off. And need to go discover a new house.
Katie: I like that we have now beehives as properly and we’ve had a few swarms this yr and now a few our neighbors even have bees due to the swarm. So I like that you simply’re doing that as properly. And like I stated, only a plug for any of you guys who’ve ever been curious, I extremely encourage beekeeping as a passion and interesting, I noticed a examine a few weeks in the past truly that the form of like resonant sound {that a} beehive makes is outwardly extraordinarily therapeutic to the physique and so they’re doing experimental therapies now with individuals simply being in proximity to the sound of a beehive and the way that may assist them of their parasympathetic. So should you wanted a well being motive to think about it. I discovered that fascinating that they only launched that examine and really that springboards completely I believe into our dialog, which I discussed goes to be particularly related for mothers with that bees with the ability to assist with the shift to parasympathetic.
We’re going to get to speak loads about relaxation and I believe it is a vastly ignored and infrequently ignored factor for ladies in as we speak’s society and particularly for mothers due to the busyness that tends to return with motherhood. I do know you discuss loads about this and rather more eloquently than I might, however to start out off broad, perhaps give us some background on what you imply while you say relaxation and the way relaxation pertains to our capability to really be capable of do the onerous issues as properly.
Ashley: Yeah, that’s such an incredible query. So relaxation, the very first thing I wanna say is that I believe there’s a lot confusion, there was undoubtedly lots of confusion for me. I all the time thought relaxation was the identical as sleeping. And as soon as I began this observe, particularly as a brand new mom, not getting any sleep and having a very sick little child, individuals would all the time say, properly, oh, identical to relaxation when the child rests or do that. And it’s like, okay, properly, I’ve a complete home to scrub and all this stuff. However I used to be actually curious. It’s like, okay, if I’m not sleeping at evening, if I’m getting up each hour with child, what can I do throughout my day that may give me just a bit micro second of restoration or just a bit approach to shift my nervous system and shift my state.
And since I’d been a breathwork trainer for thus a few years and been in that world, that was the primary instrument that I gravitated in direction of. I used to be like, okay, I can take 5 actually lengthy inhales, actually sluggish exhales and simply give myself a second to recenter and refocus. After which I began extending these practices in addition to on the lookout for different ways in which I might discover little moments of respite all through the day.
So I write within the guide that this has been a observe, sort of been working in direction of relaxation for a few years, but it surely actually wasn’t till I turned a mum or dad and I had that lack of sleep that every little thing modified. I used to be like, oh, this will’t simply be this factor that I do each now and again. This needs to be one thing that I’m tapping into all through the day. In order that on the finish of the day, I’m not simply fully out of types.
And so far as doing the onerous issues, I imply, we’ve acquired three children underneath 5 at house now. And one of many greatest, I believe sides of my therapeutic journey has been recovering from trauma, actually sort of points of myself from once I grew up that have been averted, that have been ignored, that have been sort of belittled. And there wasn’t actually anybody in my life once I was little who was displaying up for me once I was having a tough time. I’ll simply say that. I’m an enormous feeler, proper? I’m empathic, I really feel all of the issues on a regular basis. And that’s loads. And I’ve mum or dad empaths now and my children are huge feelers as Dr. Becky would say, they’re deeply feeling children. I acquired lots of deeply feeling children. And as a deeply feeling child myself, I used to be by no means proven like, hey, that is how you’re with someone’s emotions, proper? As a result of my mother and father didn’t know learn how to be with their very own emotions, in fact.
And in order a mum or dad, doing this relaxation work has truly given me the capability to be with myself. So I’ve been capable of sort of tune in and go, oh, I simply want a second. Let me pause, let me take a relaxation. Let me simply have a couple of minutes in order that I can are likely to myself and my little ones who’re freaking out, proper? After which flip to my children and go, hey, what do you want from me proper now? And that has been such, it’s been so therapeutic for myself and for my household and for my lineage on so many ranges as a result of it’s simply that attunement and that resonance. And I can’t get to attunement and resonance once I’m going tremendous quick, once I’m hustling, once I’m avoiding, once I’m trying out, it requires presence. And for me, the best way that I get current is thru slowing down and resting.
Katie: You simply introduced up so many good factors. I believe to begin with, the concept that relaxation and sleep usually form of are used synonymously, however I believe to your level, these are totally separate classes. They’re each essential and so they do overlap. But when we simply suppose they’re the identical factor, we truly miss out on lots of potential to make the most of relaxation that isn’t sleep and the methods to do this. And such as you, my trauma therapeutic was vastly impactful to my interactions with individuals and likewise to even my bodily well being in a very excessive approach. And it was a really sluggish realized lesson for me. And ever since sharing that story, I’ve had many listeners and readers ask, like, what particularly did you do? How can I do this too? And I noticed that there’s an individualized side right here in determining for every of us what that relaxation goes to appear to be. There’s not, sadly, a simply guidelines blueprint, which additionally speaks to our form of mentality right here that we wish a guidelines. We would like a to-do checklist even for therapeutic and relaxation.
And so I like that it is a extra of a journey and an interior course of that has that individualization to it, however that additionally there appear to be some sort of core issues that may assistance on that journey or like practices we will be taught that may assist us determine our personal response and our personal relaxation and our personal stress ranges and our personal trauma. I additionally love that you simply introduced up your children as a result of the older I get, the extra I actually come to firmly imagine that the most effective reward we may give our youngsters as their mother and father is to our personal self-regulation, our personal trauma therapeutic, and our personal potential to exist presently in a relaxed state.
And I do know that could be a lifelong journey, definitely, however I’d love to listen to a few of your examples or practices, perhaps that you simply realized alongside the best way for with the ability to faucet into that relaxation all through the day. As a result of I’d guess for among the mothers listening perhaps, even the concept of that’s doubtlessly a brand new idea. The flexibility to only take form of like micro moments all through the day to recenter and the way to do this. So I’d love so that you can give extra element on the way you’ve built-in that.
Ashley: Yeah, that’s such a phenomenal query. And one of many first practices within the guide is known as Orienting. And that is truly a observe that I realized by means of all of the trauma work that I’ve accomplished. And orienting is so stunning as a result of you are able to do it wherever. It doesn’t require something particular, and it’s actually fast. And so what orienting is, it’s an invite to take a second while you discover, like, oh, I’m getting actually offended, or I’m actually pissed off, or I’m completely overwhelmed, and I’m beginning to take a look at, or I simply want a second. As a result of it actually simply takes just a few seconds. And you then simply take a second. After which the very first thing you do is you simply go searching, simply together with your eyes. You simply go searching your house, and also you begin to title. What do you see? So once I go searching my house proper now, I’m going, oh, there’s a yellow guide over there. Okay, I look out the window. There’s a tree. Oh, there’s a lightweight coming in from overhead. Simply that already begins to shift my nervous system. And it brings me into presence. It brings me into contact with the sensations which can be occurring in my physique. It brings me into contact with my breath.
After which if I need to take it additional, I can go, okay, what do I hear? What am I listening to proper now? Okay, what am I smelling proper now? It’s like we simply actually get into our senses. And so orientation is an excellent approach to get into our senses. And I discover that by means of this work, stepping into our senses is one other approach that we will begin to downshift into parasympathetic and discover that second of relaxation . In order that’s a very stunning one.
One other one is nature. So I’ve a complete chapter within the guide simply particularly devoted to nature as a result of it’s so big. And we talked about bees at first. I like being in my backyard and simply tooling round in there and listening to the hum of the bees. Now we have our hive actually near the backyard. It’s simply such a phenomenal sound. All of the hummingbirds, every little thing else that’s occurring on the market. So any entry to nature, proper? That may very well be getting your ft on the grass. That may very well be tending to a bit plant in your home. It doesn’t need to be a 60 foot backyard. You may actually make this accessible. It may well even be the best way that we join with our meals. And I do know meals is such an enormous factor on your listeners and for the present too. It’s like, how are we connecting to the greens that we’re consuming, to the greens that we’re reducing up? All these issues are a very good approach to begin to nourish and simply begin to discover, to begin with, there’s connection, proper? I’m not alone. I’m linked to this complete broad internet of the world. It isn’t that unimaginable. And that proper right here, that inherent reciprocity and connection is already main us into restoration, proper? As a result of once more, such as you stated, relaxation has all these deeper connotations that’s remembering and reclaiming our interconnectedness, which for me has been an enormous a part of this course of. And simply that slowing down sufficient to go, oh wait, proper? There’s all of the assist proper right here. Although there’s all these actually onerous issues occurring and I didn’t get sufficient sleep and I’m confused and all these items, there’s additionally this different factor occurring that’s true too. And that’s a part of the trauma knowledgeable. It’s like, what else can we herald? We’re not making an attempt to get away. We’re not making an attempt to love, you already know, power ourselves into something. We’re going, all that is occurring, however what else is feasible?
Katie: And I do know within the guide, you additionally discuss one thing you name finishing the stress response cycle. And I’d love so that you can clarify what that’s and the way that pertains to downshifting into relaxation. And I really feel like many individuals, for me a minimum of, it was straightforward to get caught in that stress cycle. So I’d love so that you can clarify what you imply by that and sort of the phases and learn how to perceive that.
Ashley: For positive. So the stress response cycle is one thing that I’m intimately acquainted with as somebody who lived a lot of my life in a persistent state of stress. And I didn’t even know there was a such factor as a stress response cycle. I used to be simply all the time on that uptick. I used to be all the time in combat or flight. Typically I used to be in freeze too, however I used to be, my nervous system was simply all the time actually jacked up and I used to be going actually quick. I’ve felt a lot of my life, the sense of urgency, proper? The sense of urgency is sort of woven into my nervous system and it reveals up in all these alternative ways. It reveals up in how I discuss. It reveals up in how I believe. It reveals up in my, you already know, feeling like I’m undeserving if I’m not producing sufficient. Like I simply need to go, go, go on a regular basis. And in order that stress response cycle is all a part of that. It’s simply that how our, like our stress physiology shapes us, proper? It actually shapes our brains. It shapes our our bodies. It impacts our well being, all these issues.
And so what we need to do is have sufficient consciousness to go, Whoa, my nervous system is in a stress response cycle. I’m in that proper now. I must downshift as a result of what occurs if we don’t downshift and break that cycle, they only begin to stack, proper? And the extra the stress response cycles. one another, then we’re left with all types of well being points and all types of different psychological points. So that is one thing that I struggled with too. My stress was stacking a lot. Guess what? My again went out. Guess what? I used to be laid up in mattress for nearly a yr, identical to actually struggling to even placed on my garments and get myself dressed and bathe. And this was when our son was a yr and a half. It was so brutal. And it was additionally partly whereas I used to be penning this guide, it’s all the time that factor like we sort of create the medication that we want on this planet.
And as I used to be penning this guide and as I used to be going by means of this course of, my again was out and I used to be like, okay, I’ve acquired to really be taught this in a deeper approach now. So what does that imply? We have to downshift the stress response cycle. So there’s lots of actually true, like scientifically confirmed methods to do that which can be truly fairly enjoyable. So considered one of them is hugging. So that’s simply so stunning. Like we may give ourselves a hug. We are able to hug our family members. That’s a good way to downshift the nervous system.
One other approach is to do one thing artistic. In order that may very well be draw an image. That may very well be one thing actually great for your loved ones or for your self that you simply need to be. That may very well be write someone a letter. That may very well be make a telephone name. One other approach is thru respiration. So I do know that simply that lengthy, sluggish exhale helps to go forward and begin to downshift the nervous system in a very stunning approach. After which yeah, so create, hug. Um, one other approach to do this is transfer and transfer is one other one which we use loads in our household when issues that vitality begins to get actually intense or like, okay, let’s activate the music, let’s dance it out. Let’s get our our bodies transferring. Let’s have some enjoyable. Let’s launch that vitality. Let’s shift that cycle. After which after we dance, it’s like that good deep exhale on the finish, you go, okay, we transfer that cycle.
The factor I need to say right here is that it’s, it’s okay. In the event you begin to discover issues stacking, like I all the time need to give lots of mission and the work and lots of selection and lots of house and lots of grace as a result of we’re not going to do that completely. Like I’m nonetheless going to get caught in my stress response cycles, though I’m educating this work, however I’m residing it. And it’s the moments on the finish of the day once I’m like, Whoa, I’m so wired. I can’t get myself down to fall asleep at evening. Like, what do I must do? I want to finish my stress response cycles. And so these are the instances that I’d lean right into a observe on the finish of the day in order that I can then downshift into sleep.
Katie: And also you additionally discuss one thing known as trauma-informed relaxation. And I believe this may even be related. I do know I’ve talked about I’ve talked about my trauma story, and it does appear to be there could also be a unique strategy or a minimum of like some added issues that may be useful if somebody is aware of that they’re conscious of trauma and that they notice that’s a component of their incapability to downshift simply. So are you able to clarify what you imply by trauma-informed relaxation?
Ashley: Yeah, I’m so glad that you simply requested this query as a result of in the beginning, trauma-informed relaxation is basically our particular person historical past, proper? It’s trying collectively for positive too, but it surely’s actually our particular person histories. And as somebody who’s been in trauma coaching and is trauma-informed and trauma-certified, that is private to me and likewise in all of the work that I’ve accomplished with purchasers over time is likely one of the issues that I seen for myself was that once I began to relaxation, I used to be terrified. I used to be so scared to decelerate. I used to be like, if I decelerate, unhealthy issues are gonna occur. If I’m not going full blast on a regular basis, if I’m not pushing, if I’m not grinding, one thing unhealthy’s gonna occur. And so studying learn how to, by means of the trauma-informed lens, go, okay, what in my historical past is displaying me this? After which what do I must do now? Hey, the recommendation that you simply would possibly hear on Instagram or someplace out on this planet, it’s like, hey, simply take a relaxation. It’s like, properly, I can’t, I’m too scared. I don’t wanna take a relaxation. I don’t wanna take a look at the grief that I’ve or the ache that I’m carrying or all of the regrets that I’ve or no matter it’s. Like, I’m too afraid. And so what will we do?
And within the guide, I discuss loads in regards to the completely different instruments that I’ve used from somatic experiencing, which is a very stunning trauma mannequin. And one of many instruments is titration. And titration was developed by Peter Levine. And it’s actually, actually stunning as a result of what it affords is only a micro dose. It’s like, okay, you don’t need to relaxation for half-hour. Simply do 30 seconds. Are you able to only for 30 seconds, simply observe your breath and simply put your ft on the bottom. Perhaps put your fingers in your thighs and simply observe your breath 30 seconds. 30 seconds is an excessive amount of. Okay, let’s do 10 seconds. It’s simply actually taking it in order that your nervous system can deal with it and so that you’ve the capability. As a result of so usually with trauma, we get into overwhelm actually shortly or we’re going to close down, proper? The whole lot’s completely overwhelming. After which we shut down. And so with relaxation, it’s like, properly, I’m too scared to relaxation. I can’t do this. There’s no approach I can like open myself as much as that or let down what I must let down. It’s like, okay, properly, you are able to do that for 5 seconds or for 10 seconds. I’m gonna seize some water actually fast. And that’s. That’s so potent as a result of we will construct on that, proper? That’s one thing that we will construct on in that 5 seconds and that 10 seconds of titration can then go into one thing greater. And thru the trauma-informed lens, we’re actually our personal capability.
And that’s actually what I’m saying. Like not everybody has the capability to enter a relaxation observe for 20 minutes. And that’s okay. You recognize, all of us have our personal histories that we’re displaying up with. Now we have various things occurring in our our bodies and in our brains and in our lives. It’s like, what can we do this works for us? And so it’s actually taking that individualized and that personalized strategy to go, hey, there isn’t a one dimension matches all. Identical to you stated at first, there’s so many various methods to relaxation. And we have now to seek out those that work for us proper now on this season of our lives. Additionally with the caveat that like our lives are gonna change and our practices are gonna change and so they’re gonna ebb and movement as we develop our capability, as we be taught to really feel protected in our our bodies, you already know, sort of one second of relaxation at a time, one breath at a time, as a result of security is a big piece in that trauma-informed dialog. And I’m capability and I’m security. Like how a lot capability do we have now and the way protected will we really feel?
Katie: Yeah, I believe that feeling of security in our personal our bodies is so key. And in addition I noticed for me a minimum of was a journey. It didn’t occur in a single day by any means, but it surely’s been a phenomenal journey. And it looks like once I realized a bit bit to take heed to my physique, particularly in that trauma restoration part that I used to be in, I felt that my physique was demanding much more relaxation than I had been giving it. And so for a protracted time period throughout that, I actually minimized excessive depth exercises. I actually simply targeted on mild motion exterior, which these tie in with the ideas you’ve given, however issues like mild walks, mild swimming within the water, simply time exterior in nature and let myself sleep greater than I had been sleeping. Let myself be capable of say no to issues and never simply have as a lot on my plate as a lot as doable throughout that point.
And I felt like that was my physique and my soul sort of demanding that relaxation so as to have the ability to heal. And now that I’ve gotten right into a a lot calmer house and have therapeutic, I really feel like I now even have a lot extra vitality that I don’t want as a lot of the daily sleep and relaxation as I used to. And I’ve a lot extra vitality to have the ability to use for initiatives, however I don’t suppose I’d have been capable of get there definitely not as shortly had I not listened to my physique’s want for relaxation in that part. And so I like that you simply talked about it’s always altering. This doesn’t imply that endlessly I used to be going to wish that a lot relaxation and endlessly I used to be going to wish 9 and a half hours of sleep. However I do suppose that actually helped the therapeutic part. And I really feel like this pertains to one other idea that you simply discuss known as the physique price range. So are you able to clarify what that’s and the way it relates?
Ashley: Yeah, so our brains are sort of these superb organizers and so they’re all the time sort of budgeting like how a lot salt do we want? How a lot water do we want? What are our stress hormones? What’s occurring with our stress hormones? And so they’re sort of budgeting our vitality all day lengthy. And so once we can take a look at one thing just like the physique price range, it may be actually useful to know, okay, once I’m entering into for this actually powerful dialog or when I’ve to go, you already know, to this get together with my children or no matter it’s, this stuff are going to require a specific amount of vitality. Do I’ve that vitality proper now? I do know to your level, they’re so like, I’ve my very own private sort of historical past with burnout and combating burnout in many various points of my life for a lot of completely different causes. Proper. And I discover that the deeper I’m going on this journey, the sort of, I’m making an attempt to suppose one of the simplest ways to say this.
Basically what we’re on the lookout for with the physique price range is to essentially put together ourselves for sort of the long run. So let’s say we’re heading into one thing hectic. Our physique’s going to already begin to be wired. So all these hormones are going to be going off, cortisol goes to be going up, our adrenaline goes to be going off earlier than we even get to the occasion or earlier than we even have the dialog. So realizing that about our our bodies, what do we want to take action that we will sort of shore ourselves up in these conditions? And somebody I actually admire talks about this loads. She talks about initially of the week, she appears at her calendar and he or she goes, okay, that is what I’ve scheduled for the week. Do I’ve the capability for that this week? Do I’ve the vitality for that this week? Have I blocked off sufficient instances of relaxation? Have I blocked off naps? Have I blocked off like time with my household sufficient to essentially get by means of what I must get by means of? And if I haven’t, I’m going to cancel some stuff.
And that goes to your level round saying no and actually having boundaries round our personal vitality. And so I believe the physique price range is a very fabulous instrument for beginning to take a look at a few of these issues and go, oh, and should you’re unsure what that’s, go do an exercise and simply see how do you’re feeling afterwards? Do you’re feeling refreshed? Do you’re feeling replenished? Do you’re feeling depleted? In the event you’re feeling depleted, that’s info that’s actually necessary. So subsequent time it’s a must to go to an analogous exercise, what I’d say is sort of bracket that like what are you able to do earlier than to offer your self a bit little bit of a buffer? Do you want a bit bit further sleep? Do it’s worthwhile to do a relaxation observe? Do it’s worthwhile to just be sure you’re hydrated? After which after examine in and see what occurs. And so this is usually a actually enjoyable approach for us to begin to gauge like what’s working, what’s not working and never as a approach to stress ourselves out much more. You recognize, I’ll have purchasers will likely be like, okay, so does that imply I want to trace in a journal like each single factor I do in a day after which do some relaxation observe to counter that factor? I’m like, no, no, no, that’s approach an excessive amount of. It’s simply noticing. And it’s noticing after a dialog, after occasion, these forms of issues. How am I feeling? What’s my vitality like? okay, subsequent time, what can I do in another way? What can I weave in to offer myself that assist?
Katie: Yeah, you talked about hydration and I very a lot imagine that is an space the place there’s both going to be a optimistic suggestions loop or a adverse suggestions loop anytime we’re speaking about relaxation and stress and the physique and the thoughts working collectively. And I believe the great thing about that’s understanding it. We are able to then hopefully do the issues that assist that shift right into a optimistic suggestions loop. And for me, a type of was definitely hydration and likewise like my minerals. I wasn’t getting sufficient minerals and once we’re in a state of stress, we’re burning by means of lots of further magnesium and we’re depleting minerals extra quickly than we’d be if we weren’t confused. And so for me in that part, I additionally paid consideration to essentially supporting my physique by means of intentional hydration but in addition ensuring I used to be getting sufficient minerals, hint minerals, electrolytes, all of the issues that I had depleted with out realizing it for lots of years.
And I believe that there’s many issues in that class that assist the physique and that creates additionally a optimistic change for the thoughts and for the feelings. After which additionally these modifications we make mentally and emotionally then additionally may give us extra vitality within the physique such as you’re explaining as properly. And I believe additionally this touches on one thing that… I believe this half particularly is probably the most troublesome perhaps for mothers as a result of it’s really easy to place everyone else first and we will get that mother guilt if we take time to relaxation. And so I wished to talk on to that for a minute as a result of I additionally suppose as mothers, among the finest items we may give our youngsters is to mannequin the power to relaxation and the power to take a second and recenter.
I discover this for instance, even with my children, if there’s stress occurring within the family, slightly than put them in timeout or inform them to go away and isolate, I’ll mannequin it by I must go in my room and breathe for a few minutes after which I’d love to return again and have a dialog with you and I could be extra current and extra peaceable. And hopefully by doing that, give them the permission to have that habits as properly. However are you able to communicate particularly to perhaps the mother guilt facet should you encounter that with individuals that you simply work with and any ideas for getting previous that internally once we really feel unhealthy for form of that analogy of placing on our personal masks first?
Ashley: Yeah, I like that a lot, Katie, and that’s simply what you stated is a observe that we do in our house to my companion, and I do this as properly, simply going. Okay, we’re noticing it’s there’s methods by which it virtually appears simpler simply to place our youngsters like, it’s like, okay, are you able to simply go away? And it’s like, no, I’m the one who must take a minute. I’m the one who must be modeling this and to offer no matter, give myself no matter I’m needing in that second. And in order that’s undoubtedly a observe that we do. I spend lots of time exterior. That’s actually, actually necessary to me. It helps me floor. It helps me really feel linked. And it simply helps to shift my perspective so shortly. Like actually all I must do is step exterior and sort of look across the bushes and see the backyard and see some flowers and even simply take a look at the grass and one thing has simply modified already. So there’s a lot magic and a lot potential in that.
And by way of the guilt, you already know, for me, one of many issues that I usually do once I’m feeling responsible is simply attempt to get beneath that and attempt to get into, okay, the place’s that program coming from? The place’s that story loop working? Do I want that proper now? Is that obligatory? Is that going to assist me transfer ahead? And sometimes it’s not. And sometimes for me, my guilt applications are, you already know, come from my historical past and so they come from my household of origin and so they don’t actually have relevance for me in that second. And so that is, I’m saying that, but it surely’s onerous. You recognize, it’s not like I simply get up someday and do that. This has been years of remedy and making and years of doing this work. So should you’re new and also you’re combating that mother guilt and also you’re like, okay, I don’t even know what you’re saying. How do I get beneath that? Simply give your self a second. The extra moments that you simply take for your self, the better it’s going to be sooner or later to sort of get beneath that and ask these questions, these deeper questions of, oh, do I actually must be feeling this proper now? Is that this truly serving to me proper now? Is it serving me? Is it not serving me? Why am I truly feeling responsible? And I believe as soon as we begin to unpack that, the guilt truly begins to shift fairly shortly. And that’s undoubtedly been my expertise. As soon as I’ve been capable of get beneath it and begin to sort of shine some mild on it, I discovered that I don’t want it as a lot as I as soon as did.
Katie: And I really feel like this additionally springboards into one other actually necessary key, which is that reference to self-worth and self-trust. And I do know these have been very troublesome issues for me to be taught and I needed to take a, it was a technique of studying to form of audit my inner language and are available into like discovering a spot of peace inside myself. And also you touched on this a bit bit about making peace with our physique, however how do these concepts of self-worth and self-trust tie into this and the way can we nurture these?
Ashley: Yeah, that’s such an incredible query. Self, and this has all sort of come out of this work for me as a result of I didn’t, you already know, once I began engaged on relaxation and sort of making relaxation extra of some extent in my life, I didn’t even understand how linked it was to my self-worth and my self-trust. And, you already know, traditionally my self-worth has been fairly low and simply getting thus far the place I acknowledge, hey, I’m value taking good care of, my physique is value taking good care of, my coronary heart is value taking good care of, I’ve worth and never due to what I’m making or what I’m creating, however simply because I’m a human on this planet, and that’s nonetheless one thing that reveals up for me generally. I imply, in preparation for this podcast, I used to be going over every little thing final evening with my companion. He will get these downloads and he’ll simply cease himself. After which his physique will get actually nonetheless and his eyes sort of shut. And I’m like, oh, Nick’s getting a obtain. That is gonna be good. And I’m ready like with bated breath. What’s he gonna say, you already know? Inform me learn how to reply this query. After which he simply appears at me and he goes. You don’t have to clarify your self. He’s like, you already need to be right here. You’ve gotten a proper to be right here, you need to be right here. You don’t have to clarify your self. And it tears, proper? And it’s simply that second of, oh, proper, there’s nonetheless these locations the place that low self-worth reveals up, as a result of there’s this infant, you already know, this youthful a part of myself that also desires to love do a very good job and show myself and present everybody how good I’m or no matter it’s, you already know?
And once I can take a look at her and actually be along with her and say, hey, infant, I see you. I see that you simply’re actually desirous to show your self and like work so onerous proper now. You don’t must. You may take a relaxation. You may take a nap. You may have a snack. You may identical to do what it’s worthwhile to do. Then that gives me the house and time for grownup Ashley to point out up and go, hey, like, let’s have enjoyable with this as a substitute of constructing or not it’s a hectic state of affairs. And that’s so linked to my self-worth as a result of my self-worth is so, was all the time a lot, like I stated earlier than, about hustling, about proving, about striving, and it’s by no means sufficient. You recognize, and I’m positive so many different individuals relate to this. It’s like, we will lastly get the job or the factor or no matter it’s that we wish. And it’s nonetheless not gonna be sufficient. And so at that second in my life, it’s like, oh, I’ve to look inside myself. What’s it that I’m needing? What’s it that I’m working from?
And that was all the time a query for me with the remaining. It’s like, why am I working so onerous? And why am I working so quick? And so what do I must do to decelerate and cease working and actually take that breath and be with myself and be with the ache and the therapeutic and simply that complete journey? And in order that’s actually what it’s been. And studying learn how to belief myself has been an enormous a part of that. And it actually ties into the Self-worth as a result of once I know and I’ve these moments once I really feel like, okay, I’m value resting, then I belief myself to take the following proper motion on behalf of myself in a while in that day or that week.
And I simply additionally wanna say one thing too, as a result of that is arising for me loads. It’s like, we reside on this tradition that actually prioritizes like our exterior life, proper? It actually prioritizes like how a lot we will accomplish, how briskly we will accomplish it, what number of like prizes and accolades we have now. However actually, once we decelerate, I’ll simply reframe this, once I decelerate and I get quiet and I’ve a second of relaxation with myself that then I can have with my companion or that then I can have with my children or that then I can share with individuals in my group, that’s productive. And never solely is it productive, it’s generative. And I’ve actually been trying on the distinction between productiveness and like what we generate. And being generative is basically on the facet of relaxation. It’s actually on the facet of revolution. It’s actually on the facet of regenerating and one thing that provides again. And so once I take into consideration resting too, it’s this like deeply private expertise, but it surely’s additionally a private expertise that then connects me outward into the remainder of the world.
Katie: I like that distinction. I’m so glad you introduced that up. And I additionally love that you simply talked about the interior baby. This was a component that I did in remedy loads, was studying to form of reintegrate and make peace and make associates with my interior baby and nourish them. And I even did visualizations the place I… visualized my interior baby and gave it a hug within the instances when it wanted a hug and didn’t get it. And I really feel like that’s so beneficial.
And I additionally love that you simply touched on. once we’re capable of entry that self-love and self-worth, it makes truly all the choices that result in higher well being, whether or not it’s bodily, mentally, emotionally, a lot simpler as a result of it’s coming from a spot of affection and nourishment and never punishment or deprivation or even when it’s one thing so simple as like bodily well being and weight-reduction plan, it’s a lot simpler to decide on the meals that nourish us from a spot of affection than a spot of deprivation and framing that issues are unhealthy or that we’re afraid of it or we’re making an attempt to shed pounds. It’s simply such a extra highly effective mindset.
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Additionally, what you touched on with being with the happiness angle, it made me consider a quote from my pal Naval that stated, needs once we make a contract with ourselves to be sad till we get what we wish. And I noticed I had tales in my head of, oh, I’ll be completely satisfied once I’m this dimension or I’ll be completely satisfied when this occurs or I’ll be completely satisfied once I get by means of all these initiatives. And I needed to be taught truly happiness is the factor I can select now and nurture now. And people issues can nonetheless occur, however I don’t must make a contract with myself to be sad till they do. I can truly nurture that proper now.
I really feel like one other a part of this that’s tremendous beneficial, and I’ve talked a bit bit about on right here, however I believe you’re gonna have so significantly better perspective for is the somatic side. And I first was launched to this once I learn the guide, The Physique Retains the Rating. After which I had my very own journey of discovering simply how intricately the physique and the thoughts are linked and the way that course of unraveled for me. However I’d love to listen to you communicate to the somatic facet and something we will do from a somatic perspective to course of that stress response, to get into a greater place somatically, and likewise how that pertains to our interactions with different individuals and boundary setting and any practices which can be useful there.
Ashley: There’s a lot in what you stated. I need to reply to every little thing. However by way of the somatic piece, that’s been an enormous, big piece for me, particularly with the noting a lot trauma work myself personally has been actually like what’s displaying up in my physique. And it’s been an fascinating journey for me. I imply, I grew up as a dancer. So I had lots of like early introduction to somatic motion, to being in my physique, to all these various things. However then I grew up doing classical ballet, which may be very, very formal and it’s very strict. And there’s a lot about overriding. There’s a lot about pushing, like get your physique into this form, proper? There’s no like, oh, you’re not gonna do this. So it’s not like, there’s simply, you’re doing it. The trainer’s yelling at you, you already know, and he or she’s like, it’s intense, it’s hardcore. That was my expertise with ballet as a child. And I beloved it. And it wasn’t till a few years later as an grownup, I used to be like, truly, I don’t wanna push my physique that onerous. I don’t need to override a sensation that I’m having in my foot. After which I’m taking my pointy sneakers off and my ft are bleeding from dancing for 3 hours. It’s like, that wasn’t truly wholesome for me, but it surely taught me a lot. And as an grownup and the way that reveals up in my life now with the somatic work that I do, I take these moments to examine in.
And that instance that I gave earlier of even simply my week forward, it’s like I examine in with my physique, not simply my calendar and it from this extra sort of psychological, cognitive place, I’m going, how does that really feel in my physique? or somebody calls and invitations me out someplace, I’m going, yeah, give me a second. What am I noticing in my physique? Am I feeling tight? Am I feeling restricted? Is my tummy doing one thing unusual? Or am I feeling open? Is my chest open? Or are my shoulders relaxed? Like what are the cues for me? And the cool factor about this work, the thematic piece is all of us have these particular person cues that mark like, hey, I’m in a stress response. Hey, I’m beginning to disassociate. I’m feeling confused. My imaginative and prescient is blurry, proper? Or, oh, I’m beginning to really feel relaxed. My tummy is grumbling in that approach that it does when it’s like that sort of digestive parasympathetic response. Or my jaw is softening, proper? Or my tongue will not be pressed up on the roof of my mouth. So there’s all these completely different physique markers and somatic indicators for us to know what sort of state we’re in.
Nevertheless it’s as much as us to concentrate to them. And that’s its personal observe and its personal journey, as you so superbly shared. And particularly for these of us like myself who’ve spent a lot of their lives both overriding, pushing my physique previous its limits, or fully trying out. It’s like, I’m in an excessive camp. I’m like one or the opposite. I’m both like completely not right here, or I’m so right here. I’m like driving myself into the bottom, doing one thing that’s actually troublesome for my physique. As a result of that’s acquainted to me, proper? It’s like, now I can put myself into this factor.
And what I’ve realized by means of this observe of relaxation and the way it connects is simply the softening. If I put on my physique, am I keen to melt? The place do I really feel protected sufficient to melt? If I don’t really feel protected, what do I want on this second proper now to assist myself even really feel 1% safer? I believe usually by way of trauma, the place we’re on the lookout for these huge experiences, proper? We’re like, okay, I would like the ayahuasca sort expertise with relaxation. What’s the large peak second that I can have? And sometimes the height moments are available these little tiny micro shifts. It’s like, oh, if I simply launch my shoulder 1% and simply stick with that, oh, wow, there’s some unhappiness there. Oh, there’s some grief there. Okay, let’s stick with that versus simply making an attempt to override it and get my shoulder down as quick as doable. So the somatic work is available in that approach too.
After which the way it reveals up in {our relationships}. And it is a piece that I’ve needed to work by means of for thus a few years. I’m somebody who usually would say sure once I meant no, you already know, I didn’t know learn how to say no, it wasn’t, you already know, in my vocabulary, it wasn’t one thing I used to be allowed to say rising up. And it wasn’t till, you already know, in these previous couple of years, particularly having children, and I’ve been capable of discover ways to say no. And previously, I’d say no from this place of being actually disembodied. And so my no wasn’t anchored in something. It wasn’t strong. It wasn’t a agency. And so individuals would simply blow previous my no. And I’m like, I’m saying no, I’m doing what I’m purported to do. I learn all of the remedy books and all of the boundary setting books. And I’ve this script proper right here. It’s like, you higher not discuss to me like that or no matter it’s. It’s like, nobody would even pay attention. My boundaries didn’t land with anybody.
And it wasn’t till I began doing the somatic piece that I used to be like, oh, I’m saying no, however my physique’s saying one thing completely completely different. How do I combine these items? How do I discover coherence? How do I get my mind and my physique on the identical web page? And it was by means of paying consideration and going to remedy. And my therapist would say, the place does that, the place do you’re feeling that no in your physique? And I must sit and go, Oh, I truly need to push. Oh, I truly need to kick. Oh, I truly need to do these different issues with my physique. And that’s the place the actual therapeutic got here in. As a result of as soon as I began letting my physique have the sort of finishing again to that dialog, actually finishing that stress response cycle, finishing these trauma response cycles, then now once I say no, it’s clear, there’s no confusion about my no persons are like, Oh, she’s severe. She stated, no, okay, transfer transferring on. Proper. They’re not nonetheless making an attempt to get in there and get me to say sure. In order that’s actually like, for me, just like the somatic piece round boundaries and relaxation comes into the combination. It’s like, are we saying no with our full physique? And if we’re not, how can we transfer in direction of that?
Katie: You clarify that so, so properly and such as you, I used to be… very habitually would say sure once I meant no, even I’d verbally say sure once I met no. And I additionally had, I believe, a wound from childhood and from sure experiences the place I felt most secure if everyone was completely satisfied. So I’d go to even like nice lengths to maintain everybody completely satisfied even on the expense of myself. And I needed to be taught slowly that… boundaries and kindness should exist collectively, and that features kindness towards your self. And that was the piece I had to determine. After which from there, I used to be capable of truly construct boundaries as properly. And I do nonetheless suppose they not solely can exist collectively, they really should exist collectively, boundaries and kindness.
It looks like for ladies, particularly, this is usually a more durable a part of the journey actually because we usually tend to be keen to love give of ourselves to the purpose of exhaustion. and never replenish ourselves sufficient. And so I like that we’ve acquired to deliver that into the dialog as properly. I’d additionally love to speak a bit extra deeply in regards to the respiration side and any breath work practices that individuals might use as child steps into studying these relaxation practices. As a result of I believe once we give it some thought from a logical standpoint, we will go weeks with out meals, we will go days with out water, we will solely go minutes with out air. And so we breathe rather more any given day than we do another enter into our biology. Nevertheless it’s usually probably the most ignored, once more, as a result of usually the only issues are the simplest to miss, or probably the most computerized issues are the simplest to miss. However I’ve seen, for me, how profoundly simply making time for intentional breath work at completely different instances of the day, not even a very long time, not even lots of this, can have such a profound impression on even the physiology.
So even when somebody’s engaged on a bodily well being drawback or a sleep concern, I’ve seen breath work drastically change my sleep and different individuals’s sleep. And I believe that. our nervous methods truly be taught to reply. Like with all these stuff you’re speaking about with with the ability to get right into a state of relaxation extra, that pays dividends to our nervous system and the way we’re in our sleep and the way we’re, even our coronary heart price variability throughout the day, we even have the metrics now to see that this has a useful impression on the physique. So I’d love so that you can stroll us by means of any child steps into breath work practices that may be useful. You talked about some which can be useful pre-sleep perhaps, and even simply all through the day to form of reset that stress response.
Ashley: And that’s stunning, Katie, and yeah, linked to a lot of that. And sometimes the best way I discuss relaxation is that it’s a bridge to sleep. And so at first of the dialog, we have been sort of distinguishing like what’s relaxation, what’s sleep? These issues are completely different, they’re their very own practices. They’re each very, very, essential, however a lot in our tradition now’s targeted on sleep appropriately. You recognize, there’s so many statistics on the market. Like most of us aren’t getting sufficient sleep. And so due to that, particularly as mother and father, what can we do all through the day?
And I like that you simply’re bringing in breath. You recognize, somebody who’s been learning breath and, you already know, written a guide about breath work, it is a matter that’s actually, actually near me in a observe that I’ve been doing for a few years. And I all the time recommend at first, simply begin actually small. And I say, begin with 5 breaths. So 5 rounds, you’re simply going to inhale by means of your nostril for so long as doable. You’re not going to push it. You’re not going to power it, however simply take that deep inhale by means of the nostril. all the best way to the highest. After which there’s be a slight pause on the prime. Then you definately’re gonna exhale by means of your nostril, simply for so long as you possibly can. Proper, so we wanna suppose sluggish, mild, ease. These are the phrases that we wanna sort of be eager about as we’re respiration, simply 5 instances. And I’m gonna have you ever do this all through your day. So while you get up within the morning, after you drop the children off or no matter your sort of like mid-morning day is, lunchtime, afternoon, earlier than mattress, proper? So do this 5 instances throughout the day, the 5 by 5.
And it’s actually, actually, actually useful as a result of it’s useful for thus many causes, but it surely begins to construct in that observe. And so usually we’ll hear from individuals, oh, I did breath work one time. It didn’t work. Or similar with meditation. I attempted meditating like twice. It didn’t work. It’s like, no, no, we have now to love construct this into our routine and make it tremendous straightforward. You recognize, I’m positive, I do know you’ve learn the guide and I’m positive lots of people have the Atomic Habits, however James Clear actually talks about it. It’s like, okay, should you’re making an attempt to construct a brand new behavior, the place are you able to add that in to one thing that you simply’re already doing? So he calls it behavior stacking. And I believe it’s genius. So I’ll say to purchasers, okay, while you’re brushing your tooth, after that do your breath work, proper? You drop the children off from college. They get out of the automotive, shut the door, do 5 minutes or do 5 breaths. It’s simply actually, actually easy. And so the place are you able to weave it in? After which so far as the precise observe, begin there. These 5 inhales, maintain on the prime after which exhale out of the nostril. That’s gonna be the only place to start out.
After which should you’re wanting so as to add onto that, the following factor I’d recommend is begin to lengthen your exhalation by means of your nostril for so long as you possibly can. Once more, we wanna have lots of gentleness and lots of selection with this. This isn’t a forceful observe. It’s meant to be nourishing. It’s meant to be restorative. It’s meant to be replenishing to the system. And it’s additionally meant to be straightforward sufficient that you are able to do it sufficient instances to begin to construct that behavior. And the extra you do it, the behavior will get stronger and stronger. And you then actually begin to see the advantages, identical to you spoke of so superbly, Katie. It’s like then we get the actual advantages of the work, that are unimaginable. I imply, there’s a lot science behind breath work now that it’s simply superb. And such as you stated, it’s one thing that’s really easy to miss or be like, oh, that’s simply, should you’re scrolling on Instagram, you’ve acquired time to do 5 breaths. You are able to do it.
Katie: Yeah. And to talk to your level of how properly that may work, I believe it’s like a nervous system coaching factor that the extra that you simply do this observe, the extra your nervous system learns to breathe that approach with out you having to consciously give it some thought. And in order that improves your respiration price when you’re sleeping. That improves, you usually see advantages in train, even simply from these little tiny micro breathwork classes such as you’re speaking about. And I additionally know should you do battle with sleep, I’ve seen for me, if I do this sort of breathwork or one thing comparable like a 4, seven, eight breathwork, any sort of breathwork earlier than mattress. After which that tip you talked about about form of scanning the physique and stress-free any locations that you simply really feel tight. I’ll begin at my head and attempt to calm down all the best way right down to my toes. And I virtually by no means make all of it the best way right down to my toes earlier than falling asleep as a result of it’s so stress-free and it brings consciousness to these spots within the physique that really feel sticky or tight. After which when you launch them, it’s just like the nervous system is prepared for sleep. In order that’s a tip I like to offer individuals. In the event you do battle with the falling asleep half, that’s been actually, actually useful for me.
And I do know you might have, you’ve talked about your guide. I’ll ensure that in fact that’s linked within the present notes as a result of there’s a lot extra that it goes into than we will cowl in a one hour podcast episode. Although I like that we’ve gotten into so many each sensible and foundational points of this. And I do know, like I stated, there’s a lot extra that you simply’ve written about. I’ll ensure that it’s linked. You guys test it out. It’s superior. That’ll be within the present notes at wellnessmama.fm. However on that word, just a few questions I like to ask towards the top of interviews. The primary is that if there’s a guide or variety of books which have profoundly impacted you and in that case, what they’re and why.
Ashley: Yeah, so I used to be eager about that. And the primary guide that got here to thoughts was the large guide of Alcoholics Nameless. And I acquired sober once I was 21, which was fairly some time in the past. And although I’m not at present taking part in AA, that guide had a profound impression on my life. I give lots of credit score to that guide for actually displaying me a unique approach to reside, proper? And now what’s so fascinating is like with all the brand new analysis out and what we find out about trauma and alcoholism and habit, there’s a lot of that that doesn’t land with me in the identical approach that it did, but it surely modified the course of my life. So I can’t not point out it or can’t not take into consideration that guide.
One other guide that I simply love and return to so usually is Untethered Soul. I believe that guide is simply so unimaginable. It’s a approach to actually like broaden my thoughts and open me as much as risk. And that guide, when it first got here into my life, it’s a type of books, once more, I’ve so many books that I’ve have been on my cabinets for many years and that’s considered one of them, but it surely actually confirmed me what was doable with even my considering thoughts and with my ego and simply gave me one other language and one other approach to look and reframe issues and go, oh wait, once I’m having a thought, who’s considering that thought? I imply, that’s such a potent query. And it actually took me on this unimaginable journey of self-discovery and of simply extra consciousness and deeper consciousness.
Katie: I adore it. These will each be linked within the present notes as properly. For all of you guys listening, all that’s all the time at wellnessmama.fm. The place can individuals discover you on-line? Clearly, I’m positive your guide is wherever books are offered, however the place can individuals discover you and continue to learn from you?
Ashley: So the most effective place to be taught from me proper now’s on my Substack and yow will discover it at AshleyNeese Substack or thedeepercall.substack.com and that’s the place I’m hanging out. I write letters each week. I share ideas, insights, all types of stuff. Now we have lots of enjoyable hanging out over there. I’m loving Substack as a result of it looks like, and I do know you in all probability relate to this, it’s just like the previous days of running a blog. It’s identical to, looks like such a enjoyable group. There’s so many feedback and ideas and questions and there’s simply lots of connection over there. In order that’s the place I’m hanging out. It’s the Deeper Name at Substack.
Katie: I’ll embrace that hyperlink as properly. And lastly, any parting recommendation for the listeners that may very well be associated to one thing we’ve talked about or totally unrelated life recommendation that you’ve discovered useful.
Ashley: The factor that involves thoughts and I believe this was simply one thing that I wanted to listen to a lot at first of my relaxation observe was that you simply’re worthy of resting. And this ties into the Self-worth piece that we talked about. And it has taken me a very long time to essentially get to a spot the place I do know that I’m value resting. Prefer it’s okay for me to decelerate and to the touch, you already know, sort of tie again into the mother guilt. Even when my children are having a meltdown or one thing else is happening, I can nonetheless take 30 seconds. I can nonetheless take a minute for myself to sort of refill my cup and provides myself that reset. And I’m value it. And so are you.
Katie: I believe that’s an ideal place to place a pin in it for as we speak. Like I stated, you might have a lot extra within the guide that individuals can proceed to be taught from you. However this has been such a phenomenal dialog. I’m so grateful on your time. I’ve beloved the course that this acquired to go. Thanks a lot for being right here.
Ashley: Thanks a lot, Katie. It was actually great to be in dialog with you as we speak.
Katie: And thanks as all the time to all of you for listening and for sharing your most dear sources, your time, your vitality, and your consideration with us as we speak. We’re each so grateful that you simply did, and I hope that you’ll be a part of me once more on the following episode of the Wellness Mama Podcast.
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