The best way to get clear about what you need (and create a life that is wholesome, completely happy & free.)

Is the life you’re residing proper now the life you really need?

It’s not a query we all the time dare to ask ourselves, as a result of fairly frankly….we’d not like the reply.

And but, every so often, I believe it’s vital to step again and take a look at the larger image and get trustworthy with ourselves about the place we’re at proper now…..and the place we need to go.

It’s really the query that impressed me to place collectively my upcoming FREE workshop, Wholesome, Joyful & Free in 2024. 

My objective is that will help you lay out a transparent path for remodeling your well being–and actually your entire life–over the following 12 months. It’s going to be SO enjoyable and empowering and actually I believe it’s going to be life altering for everybody who attends.

As a result of so usually we simply get STUCK not transferring ahead as a result of attempting to determine the right way to get from the place we’re proper now to the place we need to be simply feels so massive and so onerous and so overwhelming.

So should you haven’t had an opportunity to register but, remember to do this HERE, as a result of it’s going to be superior. Actually.

However as I’ve been getting ready for this workshop, it’s had me considering SO MUCH about this subject of simply residing a life that’s wholesome, completely happy & FREE and what that truly means.

As a result of it’s an enormous deal.

And it’s additionally made me understand that with the intention to really CREATE the life you need, to seek out that well being and happiness and freedom, you’ve received to get some CLARITY on what that truly appears like.

I discuss to SO many ladies that inform me they only don’t know what they really need.

I believe it’s possibly this stage of life that so many people in our 40s and 50’s and even past that get to, the place we’ve spent the final 20 or 30 years simply attempting to boost our children and pursue our careers and do all of the issues, after which abruptly we get up sooner or later and understand that life is passing us by and our children don’t want us as a lot as they used to and but we haven’t actually spent any time deliberately pursuing the issues that matter to us or crafting a life that feels significant.

It’s like there’s this void and we don’t know the right way to fill it. We don’t even completely know what it’s that we would like, we simply know that there’s part of us that looks like one thing is lacking. So we simply preserve doing all of the issues, hoping that sometime it is going to all make sense.

However over the course of my very own journey, which I speak about in additional element on this week’s podcast episode, what I’ve realized is that you may run and run and run and preserve operating from your self and from all of the issues you are attempting to keep away from, however finally it WILL catch as much as you.

There WILL be a reckoning.

One thing will occur that can power you to reevaluate the place you’re at and the place you’re going, like a mirror being held up in entrance of your face, the place you’ll be capable of see your self clearly and also you’ll need to ask your self “do I like what I see?”

For some folks it’s a tragedy. For others it’s dropping your job or getting divorced or going through a monetary disaster or perhaps a international pandemic.

And all of the sudden you’ll understand that it is advisable to get clear about what you actually need.

Why Readability Issues

As a result of right here’s the factor…..with out readability, you’ll solely ever be DRIFTING.

And imagine me, it’s straightforward to float. Actually, most of us spend our entire lives drifting, not likely positive the place we’re going or why.

We simply undergo the motions, doing what’s anticipated of us and what everybody else is doing. We observe traits and societal norms with out ever stopping to query if it’s really what we would like for ourselves.

However drifting is harmful. As a result of if you’re not actively steering your personal ship, you possibly can simply find yourself in waters you by no means wished to be in.

And the worst half? You received’t even understand it till it’s too late.

Readability, then again, is sort of a compass that guides us in direction of the life we really need. It helps us make choices and take actions that align with our values and targets. It offers us a way of route and function.

So readability issues. A LOT. In actual fact, it may be a very powerful factor you ever do for your self.

However then, after all, the query turns into HOW.

How are you going to really get clear about what you need?

There’s really a number of steps I like to recommend that you just take.

Step One: Self-Assess

Step one to getting clear is to take a very good, onerous take a look at your self and your life and the place you’re at proper now. And actually, this isn’t all the time a straightforward course of. It’s that holding up the mirror, and generally–should you understand that you just don’t completely like what you see, it may be just a little painful!

So what would occur should you gave your self a rating, on the size of 1-10, within the following areas of your life proper now?

Well being

In your well being rating, a ten would imply you might be utterly happy together with your present well being and weight. You feel and look your very best, you’ve received countless quantities of vitality, and also you’re freed from continual ache, irritation, digestive points, and mind fog. You don’t assume it might be doable to look or really feel any more healthy than you do proper now.

On the opposite finish of the spectrum, a 1 would imply you might be utterly UNsatisfied together with your present well being and weight. On the BMI scale you might be categorised as overweight or chubby, and also you’re battling quite a lot of well being points, together with presumably Sort 2 Diabetes or pre-diabetes, irritation, hypertension, excessive ldl cholesterol, heartburn, continual ache, continual fatigue, and mind fog. Basically, you might be deeply involved about your well being proper now.

And likelihood is, you’re someplace in the course of these two extremes. However should you have been to consider it and truly give your self a quantity, what wouldn’t it be?

Happiness

Then, to your happiness rating, a ten would imply you are feeling completely completely happy and happy together with your life more often than not. Your relationships are good, you will have a deep sense of that means and function, you snicker recurrently, you’re motivated and energized, and also you frequently hunt down alternatives for private development.

Or, on the opposite finish of the spectrum, a 1 would imply you are feeling utterly UNhappy or dissatisfied together with your life more often than not. You battle with despair and nervousness, lack wholesome & constructive relationships, really feel caught and unmotivated, and have hassle envisioning something completely different than your present scenario.

And once more, it’s seemingly that your rating would fall someplace in between these two extremes, however should you actually cease to assume the place you’re at by way of happiness and satisfaction in your life proper now, what would that quantity be?

Freedom

After which, to your closing quantity–your FREEDOM rating–a ten would imply that proper now you are feeling utterly free to pursue your targets and goals, with out feeling like there’s something holding you again. You say sure to new alternatives. You dare to take dangers, and don’t really feel fearful or burdened by exterior occasions or different folks’s expectations. The folks round you assist your targets and cheer you on.

Or, on the opposite aspect, a 1 would imply that proper now you are feeling utterly caught to the purpose you might be unable to even take into consideration pursuing any targets and goals. You end up consistently saying no, even to actions and pursuits that you just used to get pleasure from. You keep away from dangers and sometimes end up consumed with concern and nervousness about world occasions or different folks’s ideas and actions. You don’t really feel like you will have a very good assist system round you.

So to your freedom rating, the place does your quantity fall?

(And simply so you recognize, you’ll really get entry to a workbook with this evaluation and a few extra useful reflection questions as quickly as you register for our free workshop, so remember to do this instantly.)

In order that’s actually step one…..you bought to be trustworthy with your self about the place you’re at proper now.

Step Two: Ask Your self What You Need

The subsequent step, then, is to really spend a while fascinated with what you really need in every of those three areas of your life–well being, happiness, and freedom.

And whereas that sounds easy, it’s not, particularly if you’re feeling overwhelmed and caught and uncertain

However you need to FORCE your self to really begin fascinated with it.

And actually, it may well’t simply be considering in your head. You should journal on it. Quite a bit.

You’ve received to ask your self the query, over and over, “what do I would like?”

Just a few years in the past, as I used to be going via my very own private identification disaster, that is precisely what my husband stored saying to me.

He’d ask, “honey, what’s that you really want? You don’t appear completely happy. What does profitable appear to be to you? What do you actually need?”

After which an in depth pal informed me that I wanted to journal EVERY DAY on the identical 2 questions–”what do I would like, and what’s it going to take to get there?”  She informed me that the extra I journaled on simply that query, the extra readability I might be capable of discover.

She was proper. They have been each proper. I’m fortunate I’ve good folks in my life giving me actually good recommendation, as a result of it was precisely what I wanted.

And in order that’s the recommendation I’m going to offer you too. When you want extra readability then it is advisable to sit with that query. What do I really need? What do I would like for my well being? What do I would like for my happiness? What do I would like for my freedom?

In order that’s step two–ask your self what you need, over and over.

Step Three: Make a Plan

The third and closing step, when you’ve began to get extra readability on what it’s you really need, is to make a plan to get there.

As a result of the fact is that almost all the things you need out of life IS doable, even the issues that really feel not possible proper now.

I believe so usually we simply shut ourselves down earlier than we’ve even gotten began as a result of we simply get overwhelmed or impatient, when the fact is that there’s little or no any of us aren’t able to with sufficient effort and time and focus.

I say this on a regular basis, however massive targets by no means occur abruptly. They’re solely EVER the results of small steps taken persistently over time. And so to make these massive targets occur, you simply have to determine the right way to break it down into manageable bites.

That’s actually all a plan is. It’s this massive factor that you really want, damaged down into smaller and smaller items that you may really deal with separately.

The way in which I usually like to do that in each my enterprise and my private life is to have a look at a BIG objective, and assume, “if I have been to attain this objective, what are the 5 issues that have to occur, the 5 main milestones I would wish to make occur first? After which from there, I break down every of these 5 main milestones into 5 smaller milestones. And what I find yourself with is principally a roadmap for what I need to do.

And from there it’s only a matter of engaging in every step.

Whereas which may sound too simplistic to really work, it’s really extremely highly effective. 

So make a plan–that’s step three. However solely AFTER you’ve gotten readability on the place you need to go.

A Few Closing Ideas

Getting readability made me understand what really issues in my life, and what’s really vital to me.

It restored my marriage. It remodeled my well being. It modified the main focus of my enterprise, and even how I function as a frontrunner. It remodeled my friendships and helped create a lot extra pleasure and FUN in my life. And it reignited my religion and my non secular journey too.

There isn’t part of my life that isn’t higher on account of getting extra readability.

And I promise it may well do the identical for you.

So be a part of me subsequent week–both November fifth or sixth for my free workshop, and within the meantime get your workbook and DO the prework! 

It’s going to be a recreation changer, and I can’t wait to see you there!